acting like an adult

I swallowed my reticence and asked. And it may, eventually, come down to tying her up in an unbreakable way until she submits (or breaks her neck), but it may not. And if it does, it is good to have affirmed that, yes, sometimes it does. And to still have a few more things to try first. And to have the idea reinforced to look for the thing to reinforce.